Strap-on sex is truly an art – that’s not just a catchy title. It’s an erotic ballet between two lovers sharing one of the most sexually intimate experiences a couple can share.
Gender-bender, role-reversal, whatever you want to call it, all of this psychological aspect brings a whole new level of excitement and adventure to your sex life.
Our guest today, Mayla Green from USA-based sex toy store The Adult Toy Shop is here to give you some pointers on how to have great strap-on sex with your partner.
This strap on guide provides clear steps on selecting the right equipment, getting comfortable with the harness, and techniques for enjoyable play. We’ll also cover communication tips and maintenance to ensure a positive experience.
Choosing the Right Strap On Harness
A well-fitting strap-on harness is key for comfort and effective use during sexual activity. To find the right harness:
- Measure around your waist and upper thighs to find a harness that feels snug but not too tight.
- To assure the best fit, choose a harness with adjustable straps for a more customizable and comfortable fit.
- Note the size of the dildo – make sure it’s not too big, nor to small.
A special note about strap-on sizing – you’ll notice that many online sex toy stores don’t list the maximum waist size, and for some reason, many harnesses made of elastic waistbands are really small (probably because they are made in China, and American people tend to be much bigger, therefore, most strap-ons don’t fit XL bodies).
To make sure that the strap-on you choose will fit, find yours at TheAdultToyShop.com because both the waist and leg measurements are listed for each product online. The dildo length is listed too allowing you to pick a strap on dildo combination that exactly suits your preferences.
Harness Fabric & Designs
Leather is a popular material due to its durability and ability to conform to the body over time. Cloth harness material, however, can differ in breathability, durability, and fit based on their composition.
Harness styles vary from jock-strap styles to underwear style harnesses, each providing different levels of access and control. Some harnesses come with interchangeable O- rings, making it easier to accommodate various dildo sizes and shapes. The right style depends on personal preferences, whether you want open access or a more enclosed fit.
Trying on a harness over clothing can help you evaluate harness size and fit before buying. This simple step ensures that your o ring harness fit snugly and comfortably, setting the stage for enjoyable strap-on play.
From flirty to fantasy, there is a harness style no matter your desires – think sexy corset strap on to leather BDSM style harness. A quick search online at your favorite sex toy store should provide enough examples for you to find your perfect fit.
Selecting Your Strap On Dildo
The shape of the dildo can greatly affect the experience. Options include realistic dildo shapes or those designed for specific stimulation, such as g-spot or prostate stimulation. When choosing a strap-on dildo, consider size, dildo shape, material, and a wide, flat base for harness use. This ensures that the dildo stays securely in place during play.
The most important feature to look for is a dildo with a flat or suction cup base to fit through the strap on O-ring.
Beginners might consider a slender or non-phallic dildo, praised for its beginner-friendly design and comfort. Having multiple sizes of dildos is also advisable to find the best fit for your preferences. This variety can enhance your strap-on play by offering different sensations and experiences.
Using fingers to gauge comfort levels can help determine the appropriate size and insertable length for a strap-on dildo. This hands-on approach ensures that you and your partner are comfortable and ready for an enjoyable experience.
Incorporating Lubrication
Lubrication is crucial for strap-on play. Water-based lubricants are generally safe with all types of toys and are easily washable but may need to be reapplied more often. Silicone-based lubes last longer and provide a smoother experience, though they can stain fabrics and may not be compatible with some silicone toys.
Many choose to keep both silicone based lube and water-based lubricants on hand to cater to different needs during intimate play. This ensures readiness for any type of play, enhancing the overall experience.
Exploring Different Strap On Styles
Various strap-on styles cater to different preferences and needs, offering a range of experiences.
For lesbian partners who do not want a strap on that looks like a penis, strapless strap-ons rely on pelvic floor muscles, providing an alternative that enhances pleasure for both partners. This style allows for a more natural connection and movement.
Strap-on dildos can be designed for specific anatomical areas, such as the g-spot or prostate. Some dildos have an egg-shaped bulb to increase pressure on the g-spot, enhancing pleasure.
Vibrating strap ons can include the obvious vibrating dildo, but may also have a small bullet vibrator that slides into a pouch inside the harness for clitoral stimulation of the wearer.
Exploring different strap-on styles can add variety and excitement to your sex life. Whether you prefer a traditional harness, a strapless strap on, or a specific design for targeted stimulation, there’s the best strap on style to suit your desires and enhance your intimate moments.
Techniques for Using a Strap On
Starting slow and openly communicating with your receiving partner is important for establishing comfort and trust.
Begin with basic positions like missionary or all-fours, as well as other positions, which are recommended for beginners to ensure comfort and control. These positions help you focus on the experience and build confidence.
Practicing thrusting on pillows can help you develop rhythm and control when using a strap-on. This practice ensures you can maintain a steady pace and adjust as needed during play. Adjusting the strap-on with your hands during use can also improve control and target sensitive areas.
Incorporate other sex toys too such as clit stimulators or butt plugs – adding more sensations will increase the overall kink factor.
Some couples even enjoy adding bondage accessories like handcuffs or floggers during strap on play to add a serious kink factor to the session.